This article about the female orgasm has many salient points about the male orgasm. Somehow, we fool ourselves in believing that other people automatically know what to do with us in bed, but that is almost never the case. There is possibly no one thing that could considered ‘universally stimulating’.

As the author points out in the Daily Princeton, one of the first things one must get comfortable with is exploring one’s body to find out what feels good and what doesn’t. Believe me, just because something looks pleasurable in a porn video doesn’t mean that is so. We are all unique, and likewise have different things that make us stimulated.

The next thing the author points out is the importance of communicating with your partner. She states

Once you have discovered your [penis], try and figure out how you like to be touched. Your partner can help you with this; just be sure to keep an open dialogue going. Do not be afraid to say such specific things as “You’re not in the right place,” and then show your partner where the right place for you is. While being stimulated, give direction such as “harder,” “softer,” “faster” or “slower.” Don’t be afraid to tell your partner when he or she has lost the right place, and then help him or her get back on track.

The other plus to the communication approach is that your partner will be more likely to communicate what turns him or her on giving you more confidence in how to make them aroused.

Read the full post at The Daily Princetonian.